You may be doing everything that needs to be done and feeling nothing while you do it. You pack lunches, answer school messages, manage meals, work, care for family, settle arguments, and remember everyone’s needs. But inside, you feel exhausted, irritable, distant, or guilty for wanting to be left alone. Many parents tell themselves, “I am […]

A University of Michigan poll found that nearly half of all parents have experienced parenting-style disagreements with grandparents. United Nations data from 2019 also shows that in nearly one in four Asian households, grandparents live with their grandchildren. Put those two facts together, and it’s clear why this is one of the most common tensions […]

Research from the University of Bath found that mothers handle around 71% of the household mental load on average, compared to 29% for fathers. I share this number because so many mothers I work with have felt this imbalance for years without having language for it. It isn’t in your head. It’s measurable, and it’s […]

A study cited by the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy found that around 70 to 75% of couples report improved relationship satisfaction after engaging in couples therapy. I share that number because so many parents I meet believe that once a relationship starts to feel like a business partnership, it’s already too late […]

Research from the Gottman Institute found that nearly 67% of couples experience a real decline in relationship satisfaction in the first three years after having a baby. If you’re reading this at midnight with a baby finally asleep on your chest, wondering why you and your partner seem to be fighting over the smallest things […]

Research from the Gottman Institute has tracked new parents for years, and the finding is strikingly consistent: nearly two out of every three couples report a decline in relationship satisfaction within the first three years of having a baby. If you’ve felt this in your own marriage and quietly wondered what’s wrong with you, I […]